If you're having no strings attached sex, why not take the opportunity to be really open about what you want? Or were you and he was just really bad? We talked for about a week before meeting up.
He was just really bad. He was all about being attentive and then wasn't. That happened to me as well! We had a whole night planned out with a room and sleep over and all That was definitely one of my most disappointing sexual experiences ever. I have thought about posting my own ad.
My friend did that And she says the sex was mind blowing. I guess for the most part it is just hit or miss. In general the sex has actually been a lot better when I responded to ads, but I've had great sex from guys who've responded to me as well.
But like you said it's definitely hit or miss. One time when I made an ad I had a guy marine who responded to me and we got along really well and were super attracted to each other. We had time conflicts traveling so we talked for a month before meeting up in person.
Our chemistry was off the fucking wall, we didn't end up having sex but even just fooling around I could tell he would've been great in bed. He has since deployed and will be gone for 2 years. But that's very difficult to find that type of chemistry so don't rely on craigslist to find an attraction that strong. Although for another example, I made an ad today and I couldn't have sex with the guy today time didn't permit , he drove to my house and I went outside to give him a blowjob in his car.
He was pretty satisfied and hopefully he'll hit me up soon for sex. He was pretty hot and smelled good despite just coming back from the gym LOL. Lots and lots of fake posts but I did get responses from real women, from there I met up with the most attractive one. She had a huge cum fetish and I was really horny at the time so yea It was pretty fun, she basically had me visit her office after hours and then gave me 2 blowjobs and swallowed all my cum while playing with herself to get off.
It was my first time being with someone so enthusiastic about oral and really good at it and my first time being deepthroated or titfucked by a woman with large breasts. Yeah plenty of times, but it's very hit and miss. Most of the guys I've met were kinda meh, but three guys in particular were amazing. All were marines and really great fucks. You're definitely going to meet some sketchy people on there, so use protection even if they say they're clean.
Also very dishonest people as well, one of the guys I was with was married with a newborn and I have no idea how he got "permission" to stay the night in a hotel with me.
Also you'll encounter a lot of fake people on there who will lead you on and flake on you. If anything ask for their kik and ask them to take pictures on the Camera app, so you know they're not using fake photos. Or use an app like Skout or Tinder. For a male i found it to be all pro's or scams. I posted an ad for NSA sex. I received over replies. Most were just cock pics, with a message that read, "hey, baby" and that was the extent of the communication.
Only about 10 of them complied with my request to put their favorite drink in the subject line. One hour after I posted I had received one death threat and three different messages calling me names for not responding. I chose a guy who wrote a real message. There was punctuation in it! My hope had been to find a hook-up for that weekend, but after many creepy messages, I slowed down.
I chose a guy who had made me laugh. We talked for about a week everyday and then met for coffee. He was hot and funny and it was on! We would meet up randomly, whenever we could manage. Mediocre conversation, but I wasn't shopping for conversation.
As a female, it was a bit scary. A lesson in caution, I think. I have since searched a couple of times on Craigslist for NSA sex. Once I was stood up by the same guy three times.
The other time was much like my first experience: For women it's really easy. You have a shit ton of guys send you responses Sometimes I have the same really ugly dudes try to respond to my ad at different times and it's kind of infuriating. Some also will just do it for the sake of trolling if you post your ad with photos or have too many specific requirements. I didn't believe the latter part at first but after having people reply to my e-mails and tell me I'm "fake" or a "whore" or "flagging just for laughs", it happens a lot more.
It's pretty discouraging for real women who want to use craigslist. Also forgot to mention about another guy who I met who was an incredible find on craigslist. I was working in Hong Kong and this guy was an Australian expat who was a few years older than me. We both met with no expectations of anything happening and we got along very well throughout our drinks so we ended up back at his place and had a very hot and passionate night of incredible sex.
He was cute and average, but man was he great at sex! I'm a girl, started to post ads on CL a couple of month back new year, new adventures yea? Did not know what got into me and did not know where I found the courage to post such thing. Was brought up and hang out within a semi-conservative community, so essentially casual hook up is frowned upon.
One day I was thinking what the heck, let's do this. My first encounter was meh. Second time with a different guy was nice actually, he was shy but friendly, had a good time but never met again. Third time was boring. Fourth time was with an army just got back from Afghanistan. Was bad cause he came too quick. Finally fifth time was a charm, the guy was nice, had a nice home, and was really good with his tongue.
Ultimately, the sixth guy that I met on CL was my favorite so far. He is much, much older than me, about 20 years older. He is single, have a nice job, nice car nice place. We watched movie at his home and had sex, and in the morning he even made me breakfast. So, basically, it's a trial and error process. You might meet someone you have chemistry with, or someone blergh. I say "current" like I've had one before, but that's not the case.
Anyhoo, I was browsing my city's CL, replying to the ones I found interesting, just to throw as many hooks into the water as possible, basically. Hers was called something like "Cougar looking for a cub ," and I wrote her asking if 32 was too far out of the age range she was looking for. It obviously should have been, but she replied that it wasn't out of her range, but that at 32 herself she might not fulfill the cougar fantasy I was looking for.
I didn't have a cougar fantasy, exactly, I was just looking for sex, or so I thought. We exchanged plenty of emails and got to know each other before we met in person.
It turned out that what we both seem to have been looking for was a friend that we could fuck. We both thought we just wanted sex, but neither one of us really has that many friends in town, so a FWB-type relationship works out really well for us. We've had really great chemistry, sexual and otherwise, up to this point.
Point of my rambling story being that it is certainly possible to meet up with someone over CL's Casual Encounters. I wouldn't have thought so myself, until it finally worked out for me.
If I may assume that you're a male looking for a female partner, just be prepared to deal with a LOT of them not working out. Be as clear as possible about what you want from the beginning, and keep at it. Is 32 "cougar" now? Maybe "puma" or "leopard", but I thought 40 was the "cougar" demarcation But if you're interested, read on for the story of my seven days on Craigslist's Casual Encounters — my failures, near misses, discoveries, insights and successes.
Following that, I interviewed two women to learn how they used the site successfully for their own fulfillment. Each day I tried a different approach to see what would be most effective, though I never lied or posted fake photographs. One day my message was intended to be sweet and normal; I suggested starting with drinks and fun conversation to see if we had chemistry, then going back to my place to cuddle on the couch with a movie and see where that led.
Another day, I described it as a rebound. In yet another, I explicitly detailed sexual activities and used very aggressive language. Ultimately, only the "sweet and normal" was successful, even though very few posts by women had that same tone more on that later.
I received about a half-dozen responses each day. Most were scams, some were men, some were prostitutes, and just one was legit. All the responses I got from real people on my first day weren't from women — they were from men. I made it very clear in my post that I was only interested in women, but a large number of men chose to ignore that. They all offered oral sex. I responded to them politely, saying, "Just interested in women, but thanks for the offer!
Have a good one. I began to suspect that no women actually used the site. The stereotype is that women are interested in relationships, and that only men would be interested in totally casual sex, right? We know that's not true, though. In fact, I was inspired to write this article when a friend told me many of her female friends had owned up to using it. Over the next couple of days, I actually received a lot of posts from women. Or at least, they said they were women.
To be honest, I doubted the veracity of the claims. It didn't take long to realize that almost all the replies I received were scams. The situation is so severe on Craigslist Casual Encounters that posts by real women who are actually seeking hook-ups are often flagged for removal at the slightest cause for suspicion. The most common scams are "safe dating" websites.
An alleged woman will write a man saying she's interested, but that because of the Craigslist-based serial killers and rapists in the news, she needs some extra assurance that it's safe. If you follow the link she provides, the website asks you for your credit card number — y'know, so it can do a background check to make sure you're not a criminal. One individual tried to get me to buy him or her virtual currency in online games like MapleStory before agreeing to hand over contact information.
Yeah, right — moving on! What little luck I'd had so far. The week was half over and I hadn't had a single bite. I decided I would have to take the initiative, so in addition to posting my own ads, I started responding to every ad from any woman who seemed at all interesting.
I cast a wide net in my searches, looking up posts by straight or bisexual women between the ages of 18 and 35 who lived anywhere in Chicagoland — a large metropolitan area that's home to close to five million females. Most of the women wanted something very specific they couldn't find in their normal lives: Someone to help play out a particular fantasy, someone vastly older than them or someone of another race.
Very few of the women who were advertising seemed to be looking for anything I would consider a "normal encounter. I typically wrote two or three paragraph replies and matched the tone of their own messages, then attached a couple of tasteful photos of myself. I didn't get a single reply from an actual prospect this way. It turned out that most of the ads were fakes from scammers, and quite a few fell into another category all together. Prostitution is what made Craigslist controversial.
There's technically another section for that — "Adult Services," formerly "Erotic Services" — but that's not the only place you'll find practitioners of the world's oldest profession. The prostitutes of Craigslist speak in code, but it's not a difficult one to learn. They advertise "French lessons" — an odd thing to advertise under "Casual Encounters," don't you think?
Well, it's obviously a euphemism for something else. Many of the ads that weren't from scammers were from prostitutes. The ads are so obvious that it's surprising the euphemisms are effective in fending off law enforcement. Then again, maybe they are law enforcement. Amidst all those failures, I had one near-success. A woman wrote in response to my sweet "cuddling first" ad saying she was in town for only a couple of months, and that she was frustrated she couldn't find a relationship.
When she sent her pictures, she looked plain but attractive. We exchanged a couple of e-mails over the course of two hours, tossing back and forth lists of interests and the like. She made it clear that she wanted to meet up, and while she talked about starting slow, it was clear that it would indeed be a casual encounter. But when I suggested a time to meet — the last message from me before I would reveal myself and back out — there was no reply.
At least, not yet. The next day, she e-mailed me saying she was deeply apologetic and that she'd fallen asleep. She said she'd like to meet up sometime. So yes, there are women on Craigslist. Well, at least one!..