Well, get over it! I did it because I wanted to have fun, flirt and meet men outside my social group. I felt some trepidation about putting myself out there. Especially for someone who barely has an online presence. But 15 million people in the UK are registered for online dating and one in five relationships now start online. There are an overwhelming 1, dating sites, though, so where to start?
I decide to try those recommended by friends and that advertise the best success rates: I go for the least level of exposure, with a black and white pic of me wearing sunglasses. The site asks questions about my looks, level of education, lifestyle and beliefs, and then the difficult bit: I say I am looking for a slim, six-foot Caucasian man, easygoing, energetic, enthusiastic, generous, confident and funny.
I realise I am describing my husband. Maybe I should be more experimental. I describe myself as slim, blonde, widowed, easygoing and ready for a new relationship all true and give myself the name Life Enhancer. Before you can contact the men they suggest, you must subscribe. First up is Nottinghillbilly, pictured with messy hair, a beard and in a leather jacket.
I then peruse Oddball, Goopile and Naked Plumber. A guy called Wayne winks, but on his profile I discover he is recovering from having his brain tinkered with on the NHS, and much as he sounds lovely, I need someone straightforward at this stage in my life. LondonArty looks younger than some so I try him. He responds by asking me to come up and see his Samurai Swords. But I agree to meet Unicorn, a year-old retired construction engineer, for a coffee in the West End, where we both work.
Being a Guardian reader, I assume this will be dominated by intelligent, solvent and liberal Guardian readers. I upload the same photo and answer the same questions and details as I did on Match. It is the Guardian after all. Threesomes in my experience have never been planned, usually with girls that know each other well and know you well, all single, have a few drinks at home together and things just evolve from there.
I don't know specifics, but with with that knowledge in mind, try a google. Ummm my partner and I Brisbane based also looking for couples to play with. We would love to chat and know more. Which one of you needs the third person? This is usually an indication that one partner finds the other inadequate and has coerced them. Even if they aren't "Bisexual" more girls than you think are at least open to trying it to find out.
Want to add to the discussion? Many escorts offer this and will happily oblige. And they know what they're doing too. I never thought to do that. Some quirk in Qld law. Happy to be wrong. My head swimming with possibilities. Otherwise go clubbing with your partner and make friends with random girls?.